I'll be honest, your rules seem very arbitrary. It will be important to acknowledge this in your conversations with your daughter about this physical part of her relationship. You don't want them sneaking around. But I wish she would have told me things a little more on an equal level. She should know how to let her partner know what she does not want. Make rules about drinking, or letting you know where he is, instead of just saying a certain time. Or letting her have friends over so that you can supervise them.
I have an almost 17 year old son also cute, smart, sweet and funny who does not date either and I've been glorying maybe I shouldn't admit that in the notion that I don't have to worry about all the things it entails----sex, alcohol, increased peer pressure, etc. The attitude is really bad and things that she is doing is disrupting. Bottom line: Giving your child unrestricted, unmonitored access to the online world is asking for trouble. At the end of the day, the great majority of our calories should be eaten, not drunk. It's unclear to me what your goals are, and this is the first step in setting up guidelines or procedures of any sort.
I'd take his phone away for a month and ground him for a week. My 17 year old son has never been out on a date himself and he is not worried about it. Do you let them walk around the neighborhood with friends? Her childhood has passed so quickly. If he sees his friends on a Friday then Saturday he is in. I pick the battles so not everything is up for debate. Your daughter is doing well in school.
That fact makes me feel justified in being the voice of reason especially when I know better. Of all the wines and spirits that make up the beverage industry, Beam crafts dozens of the world's most. I enjoyed the boys in class and other gatherings but did not date them. Was it really necessary for you to lecture him at a wedding, in front of his older cousins? We are waiting to hear what happens this time. My oldest has not done things that her other friends got into trouble for, soley because she feared me. I tried talking with her about it but she was angry that I was ruining her fantasy and finally said ''Fine! School starts tomorrow and we plan on giving him the phone tomorrow as he gets on the bus. That is kind of a demeaning to him.
Appropriate Age Establishing an age to begin dating is the first step for most parents and teenagers. Typical teen stuff parents are idiots, knows all the answers etc. One thing that I would add is that I don't take the phone away at night from my 15 soon to be 16 year old. However, even with these guidelines, three out of four of our teens had their first real date to the school prom in their junior year at age 17. I mean, obviously please and thank you should be hammered in by now, but do you really want to battle over good morning and good night? Some good websites on how to establish rules and structure, yet provide a supportive home are: I like the idea of establishing a verbal contract with your niece that stipulates rules for her behavior and activities. As a teacher, I'm pretty tough, but my students always say that I'm fair, and that's more important.
I thank you for all of your comments. She went to his house once or twice, all when parents were home. In light of our reformatted definition of dating, we have the following very general age guidelines for spending time with a friend of the opposite sex these are for our children still living at home. You can customize it as often as you like on line and it accepts up to 15 numbers that won't be blocked like mine and my husbands. Updated I know you are looking for specific boundaries but I would recommend the Love and Logic materials for teens that they have. Does he have a job to support it? I told her that I wanted to meet him before they went ''out'' anywhere. They call us when they leave the barn, when they arrive and when they are leaving their friend's house to come home.
The tween years are a major period of developing an identity and a self-concept for kids. It's better to have him in your house. Young teenagers are at a very delicate age. If it doesn't work out you can always put your stricter rules back in place. And all those strict moms ;your child may very secretly hate you so give some room to get used to herself and breathe and release the choke hold. Let him know the consequences.
It's a business book called The Goal, by Eliyahu? You must be at least 13 years of age or such other minimum age as is. We've had a long talk with her this evening about how disruptive. Spiritual and emotional maturity can only come with time. Did you or another adult chauffeur, or was it at one of the kids' homes? But if your kid thinks like me, I think you should give her freedom so she doesn't get bored or feel like she has no opportunity to do the things she will enjoy and then get resentful. Most of the problems kids have today is they don't know where the lines are that they can't cross. Because I made those decisions. When a child can date Giving a child the privilege of spending time with a member of the opposite sex is a freedom that is based upon our judgment of how responsible we deem this child to be.