May Allah guide us all to the right path. But if this is some kind game he's playing I don't want to go any further and get my heart broken. If we have children, he wants them to be brought up as Muslim. Islam motivates men towards marrying women with taqwah piety because that is what lasts. To this day he twisted everything said one thing to me then called me behind my back with different stories what never happend. I just feel that you really have to look at how a person is, how they were raised, culturally and intellectually, before deciding if they're for you for life.
Love is about being yourself and being happy, and the other person being happy with who you are, it's not about changing yourself to make the other person happy. He says things to make me think he is interested long-term, he mentions kids and marriage with me. I am very polite and caring person I am simple, honest, hardworking , trustworthy, liberal and open minded person. Not a single Muslim I know eats pork. I'm sorry for all these questions I just really want to strongly believe that Islam truly is a beautiful religion but all these things are confusing me and making me question this. It strongly depends on how they were raised and educated as well as the country they grew up in. Therefore it is imperative on Muslims not to marry such women if they wish to follow the ways of the Holy Prophet sallallahu alaihe wasallam and the Sahabah.
He will fulfil her material wants, show signs of adoration, all the things to get her to comply, but this is just foreplay that leads to the end goal. I want to use this medium to let everyone here know that this is real and if you are out there having this same problem please kindly contact Dr. Well in many cases it's not just a mixed faith marriage but also a mixed cultural marriage too. My parents and grandparents were different religious - grandfather was Catholic and grandmother was Christian. Taking a Christian wife spreads Islam by preventing the woman from marrying a Christian man and having Christian children.
I never had any problems mingling with them what so ever. The suggested acitvity is not why she will say yes or no, she will decide that based upon whether or not she's interested in you. I was 23 and had just met my Muslim friend. I hope inshallah ypur problema wil be solved. I am spontaneous and sarcastic, and believe you have to take risks to earn a reward.
The ability of muslim men to do those things isnt based on Islamic principle but cultural norms. I was exactly where you were when I first started dating that Muslim guy. Does she get along with everyone? Still, I personally find it insulting that a British born Pakistani man or woman is forbidden to date a white British woman or man. Sadly, cultural expectations and prejudice can lead people to act in un-Islamic ways, and to make things unnecessarily complicated. I am still with him but doubt keeps nagging me. Don't believe everything on the internet, the bad influence of September 11th still continues, prejudices and biased people are everywhere.
You also need to decide whether you will be able to handle the double standards cause it won't be easy. If you are going to be overly skeptical and judgmental of him because of his religion what ignorant islamophobes say about it on the internet then just leave him, he doesn't deserve to be judged that way. You didn't mention where he hails from but this can also make a huge difference on what they believe and how they act. Keep in mind that the tone you use has a direct effect on the quality of the responses you will receive. I made a point of defending my ex to my Catholic friends and family. Or when you try to figure out why there is never any toilet paper in the bathroom. For men it's more about 'what can she do for me? Only recently he starts telling me to read the Quran and specifically Surah Nur.
Your choices suited you well, but for most religiously-minded people an inter-faith marriage will not work. One of the most important tasks of Catholic associations, volunteer workers and counselling services will be to help these families educate their children and, if need be, to support the least protected member of the Muslim family, that is the woman, to know and insist on her rights. As much as I want to be able to share in his religion for the sake of harmony in our relationship, to appease his family, for him, etc. If someone claims to be totally unscathed, they are living in la-la land. The consequences of this mean that women freak out at the realisation of their husband's sex drive, and men wonder why their wives aren't on an equal level. I dont want to get hurt in the long run. Hypothetically if we did get married, I would have absolutely 0 qualms about raising my children Muslim.
It also lays down the stipulation for marrying them that they be chaste, and as can be derived from the following verse, marriage is permissible regardless of the contents of the scriptures being changed by the people. Let's say she defied her father, and you two dated, do you honestly think you're going to be together for long? So, let's look at this objectively: You're on here, which means you need third-party confirmation whether or not go ahead with this, the relationship seems to be rushed, you don't know much about his culture, and you're much older than him. All of what he is going through has nothing to do with how much he loves you. If you are married to a Muslim, never even consider giving up your Lord and Savior Jesus Christ under any situations. And now, onto the check-lists. Sadly, many arranged marriages to people who are barely more than strangers cannot allow for this and it also shows in my ex's brother's marriage which has its issues.