Over the past month, our relationship had truly begun to bloom. I now have had no contact with him in 7 months. I have taken my husband for granted and I am finally realizing that. Oh this growing up is hard sometimes, attach it to a heart ache. I am , thank God, over him, I look back, and Like Been There said. That would have made it even easier for me to walk away.
M really in depression and stress. He still has bouts of guilt over it, but he also has a lot of confusion now. They will stop thinking about attending school or put business plans on hold after meeting someone who sweeps them off their feet. You all need to step up to try yo think through your own problems. His manipulation has affected my life deeply. Dont let this man use you and get nothing in return.
As months went by we both decided we wanted to be together and divorce our spouses but we had young children and had planned to wait. It's hard to deal with this but will save you pain in the long run. When he told me about his overnighting it with a woman he started dating, my heart felt like it stopped beating. Baby steps to healing… Hugs to you girls. It is so painful to be told all the horrible truths. How could U miss someone and then turn around and insulted and hurt their heart? Now I fell he moved out because it was easier to have sex with me that way plus he didn't have to come home late and make up excuses what a clever boy. She said nothing his done prior to this raises any red flags.
Now the no contact has been a life saver. Are you people for real…are you serious? When I got home I saw that he had emailed me that I was his drug. What's the best cure for a man? You will need her the most when it all comes down crashing. Because she was the stronger one who stayed or is the more naive of the two of us. I don't know how this will change the outlook.
Telling her will put you in a bad light but you cannot expect anything else. He never even liked me as so he says. He called me this morning to say he told his wife about the feelings he has for me and tht he was unhappy with their situation. My instincs just sense that he is playing me for a fool which is almost true. We were together for 2 yrs but the last year thing between us progressed to were we were going to move away together. VirtuousWoman Thank you for this page. Im even thinking to informed the immigration service that he lied about his age to get his staying here because im still angry,.
I told him that I said that as a way to try to squeeze some empathy out of his narcissistic heart. And in part some of that strength comes from this group that shares their stories. Mm broke up with me earlier this year after 6yrs together. If he were a decent person to begin with, he would not be sleeping around behind her back, or hurting other women by getting involved with them only for sex, nothing more. I knew better, but believed the leaving the wife line, like we all have. I mean if he loves you so much and he does not have children as the excuse, why would he stay with her? I need to accept the situation for what it was, get him out of my life totally and focus on me and my self esteem and my own meaning and purposes in life.
The truth is, a guy will string you along as long as you will let him. Before you make a huge decision to ruin several lives, you need to consider all the ramifications of an affair. We have a son in college and in debt up to our eyeballs. Add to the mix another married man. I believed him because he was not living at home. Life is for Living…and its short!.
I do not believe all women that fall for a married man have lower self esteem or are poorly educated, or horrible women , sometimes your life can lack excitement and when someone makes you feel special unlike anyone else you want to hold on to that. I just wish this never happened as I love her so much and this hurts really bad. I didn't want to ruin his life either. Remember, it's not cheating on your part because he is married. I guess you could call it an emotional affair but we've helped each other emotionally, intellectually, and artistically. We always talk about having a family getting married and have a future with me. I really wanted to because i felt such a connection to him.
Be strong and live the life you should with love peace and harmony. I tend to play alot of games to get my way but this is not game. If he seems content to let the relationship go on for years as it is, you should see that he is using you for some fun on the side. I dont want to be the reason he is getting a divorce! End your suffering, move forward in freshness and light. I know that I never saw myself as a sideline woman, no matter how low my self-esteem was.
Think about what your life was and what it has become. She was actually not anything he ever said that she was. I had never thought of him in that way he was always just a work collegue in my eyes who i thought was intelligent and sweet. And we have love and trust but I'm not unrealistic I know he most likely won't leave. What would you tell your best girlfriend to do in this situation? You are dating him with all his problems and warts. If you are serious about building a legitimate relationship with him, you will need to set a time limit.